The above video is a very short clip featuring Sara Blakely, the founder of the billion-dollar company Spanx, talking about how his father celebrated and encouraged failure since she was little. HUWHAAAAAAT? Say that again? Who does that? Apparently, the wisest of us.
I have heard the concept of failing forward and that there is really no failure in trying but it is only now that I have witnessed or come across someone who deliberately embraces and lives it. This is by leaps and bounds changing me and I hope it would start to revolutionize your mindset as well.
I do not know. I am wrong. I tried but failed. These are some of the most, if not, the most difficult things to admit, to say, more so, to embrace and celebrate. This broken world has so wired us to believe that the successess we see around us were started with and built on previous successes. Then, we look at our lives filled with drawbacks, mistakes, dead ends and stare in space with despair, hopelessness and resignation. We sweepingly conclude our destiny and it is FAILURE – born that way, stay that way, die that way. We’d rather not try again. But who are we fooling? Really? When we have heard again and again how the back stories of successful people are filled with just that – drawbacks, mistakes and dead ends. But it just seems we’re living in a different world right? But we’re not!
I, for one, have been a victim of this crazy and blind penchant for success for most of my life and I am pretty sure I am not alone. Who doesn’t want to succeed and be recognized? We all say yes to success but nothing is guaranteed and often we bump into futility. Thus, the real issue lies in our fears and the real important question is how many of us are willing to fail, be downright rejected, and feel ashamed for the sake of our dreams, our calling or our deepest desires? Are you? I sure don’t…didn’t rather =p. Now, I declare, WHY NOT? Who said I cannot succeed just because I do not know (yet), I’ve made mistakes and I’ve failed? Apparently, the most foolish of us.
Now, more than ever, I am tempted to pursue perfection. I really want to succeed at this endeavor, blogging that is. More than once, I got depressed thinking about how I’m failing, crashing walls and how I SHOULD NOT be doing this – that I’m just wasting time (mine and yours), money and effort. Simply, I am afraid. But I am putting an end to that right about now. I know that by saying that, I have set myself up for yet another opportunity to fail, hehe, but that is the spirit! My dreams are worth failing for, crying and cringing over and SO ARE YOURS. Nothing lasting and truly fulfilling is instant. We will not know everything but that just means we always have room to grow. We will make mistakes but that just means we can learn so much more. We will fail and we will be rejected and what does that mean? Well, it means we’re trying enough to be where we want to be and become who we want to be. As Chris Dixon also said “If you aren’t getting rejected on a daily basis, your goals aren’t ambitious enough.”
As a gesture and as you may have noticed, I have shared here photos of my failed attempts. These are just some of the many. I am looking forward to making a habit of celebrating my failures in this blog under the Keeping It Real series special: Perks of a Failure. And I’m wildly hoping that it be a norm in social media as well. Finally, I hope that in my own little way, I will and have encouraged you to do the same and be free to use your wonderful gifts, express your passions and realize your utmost potential.
So what are the PERKS OF A FAILURE? I say success, success and success! Now, how about some hashtags?
#FailedTodayItsOkay #YeyToFailure #FailingGood #FreeToFail #NoFailureInTrying #PerksOfAFailure
Note: Keeping It Real is a blog series I have started as a venue to share my personal ‘realities’ related to this blog and life in general